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One needs to be at a certain level of understanding in a relationship before they can pour their hearts out in front of their partner. With Tinder in the picture and boyfriend/ girlfriend being open to interpretations, it is difficult to marginalize what norms and conventions are to define. We get it that you want to be truthful and honest with your boyfriend, but the truth at an incorrect time will do you no good either.
You can open about your ex if you have reached a stage where you understand each other and need no reason out on everything. Otherwise, it is just a very uncomfortable topic that can bridge more awkwardness and doubts between you two.
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Maybe you did kiss a lot of frogs before you ended up with your prince charming, but that does not mean you need to list out all the guys you have been with on day one itself. Take your time and when he is at a stage of understanding then spill the beans.
You might not feel secure with your friends or might have an issue with them. If you keep on bitching about somebody, eventually it will say a lot more about you than anybody else. Your boyfriend will judge you as an insecure person-not worthy of trust.
This should be on top of every list of "Things-You-Should-Never-Ever-Not-Even-In-A-Parallel-Universe-Say-To-Your-Boyfriend". Will you ever pick him over your friends? Maybe sometimes, but this statement will end up in a fight anyway.
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Everybody has a lot of insecurities they do not open up about. When you are in a relationship with somebody it is okay to be candid about things, but if that candidness eventually reaches a point of shaming then it will not work out well for anybody.
Again, you need not make anybody insecure about themselves. Relationships should make you feel loved and not make you think less about yourself. You saw his height before you started dating him so now stop complaining and it is not like he can grow taller overnight anyway!
Firstly, it sounds very rude. Second, then explain it to him what he is not able to understand. It is not like you knew everything the minute you were born.
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The internet has made enough memes out of the nothingness of "nothing". If things are wrong, then say it, but do not say "nothing" if you are mentally tormented. Because that makes him unwanted.
The same as nothing, if you are not fine then say it because you cannot act like you are not fine and say you are because that leaves both of you impossibly hopeless. Otherwise next time he will not even try because he knows you are going to tell him and might become rude.
Do not open up about family trauma and insecurities in a casual hook-up or a maybe-maybe relationship. Chances are they might end up using your own words to hurt you!
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